My name is Julie and I am starting a new adventure. I am going to be a surrogate for my brother and sis-in-law to their adopted embryos. Sometimes I wonder how this all got started and my only explaination is GOD!
I guess I should start from the beginning:
About 4 months ago I was reading my usual blogs and started looking at the lists of other blogs on the side of the screen and one of them said something about embryo adoption. I was intrigued so I clicked it. Little did I know what I was getting myself into. I read about a family that had been struggling with infertility for many years and how they had been blessed with the gift of embryo adoption and now have a beautiful baby. I immediatly thought, "this could be for BRO and SIL". My brother and sister-in-law had been trying to conceive since they were married in 2001. They had been through multiple fertility treatments including IUIs and clomid, but have never been blessed with a pregnancy. They then tried the route of traditional domestic adoption. They went through the same attorney and agency my cousin had used to adopt his son. They were matched and were only a few months away from their baby girl's birth when the adoptive mother requested more money that they were not able to give because they had tapped out their entire savings. Then my sister-in-law was forced to have a hysterectomy due to endometriosis. My entire family was devastated by their struggles. I have 3 beautiful children of my own and wanted them to know the joy of being a parent sooo much.
So, after doing some googling and reading about embryo adoption I talked to my husband to see what he thought about me offering to be a surrogate. He thought is would be okay. I wanted to call them right away and propose this to them, but I was hesitant because I was unsure how to say it. So I kind of put it on the back burner until I saw them again.
Three months later my uncle passed away suddenly and my brother and sis-in-law came for the week of the funeral. We were on our way to plan all of the funeral arrangements and it was just us three in the car and I asked them if they had ever heard of embryo adoption. SIL said she had researched it and thought it was very expensive and they were not prusuing anything right now because they didn't have the funds. BRO had never even heard of it. I told them I was willing to be their surrogate if they ever changed their minds.
Here is where God comes in. The next day my grandmother learned that my uncle had left her a large amount of money. That night she came to my brother and SSL and told them she wanted to give it to them so they could pursue another adoption! Wow, God is so faithful. That night SIL did a ton of research and found out I was right, that EA was econimical compared to other forms of adoption and learned that the home study they had from their previous failed adoption would just need to be updated.
The next day after the funeral, they came to me and told me about the gift and asked if I was serious. I said absolutely!!! They are now in the process of updating their home study and it looks like it should be finished by the end of June.
I have done some major blog reading the last couple of months and feel like I am better prepared for what to expect and am ready to start this new journey. I hope to continue to blog this journey, but am not ready to tell very many people in my "real life" So if you know me in real life, please keep this to yourself and off facebook.
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